Well as I mentioned before, I have a 2 yr old, and with that comes the terrible part right? In my case yes! She is the most amazing, most challenging, and most strong willed little girl I have the pleasure of calling her my daughter. We have had many struggles with behavior lately. Where the heck does she learn such phrases like "FINE"! or "WHATEVER"! as she stomps to her room with her arms firmly folded??? I certainly do not display this kind of behavior. She also runs from us when its time to get dressed or time to go to bed, throws her sippy cup on the floor if its contents do not appeal to her, and refuses to eat anything called a vegetable unless bribed.
So now your all thinking "oh my goodness, she IS terrible" BUT, at the end of the day Veda is the most wonderful, sweet, cuddly little girl there could be. She is full of hugs, kisses and I love you's!! I am so blessed to be her mommy.
With all of this negativity from Veda we have had to make some choices on how to discipline and that in itself is a huge challenge. We have tried everything, YES everything. Here I admit that I have even spanked her, which I DO regret. I don't even believe in spanking because my mom was abusive and I WILL NOT be traveling down that road. Spanking isn't the answer anyway, it teaches our children to hit, and don't we teach our children that hitting is unacceptable??? So there is a huge double standard.
So what works for us? We are still figuring it out. What works one day may not work the next. Time outs are becoming pretty effective but its very exhausting. Worth the work, but exhausting! So I will end this post by saying.....being a stay at home mom is the hardest job in the world, there are no sick days, no paid vacations, no 8 hr work days BUT we do get a bonus.......those extra hugs, kisses, and I love you's that come amongst the fits throughout the day and I wouldn't trade it for the world! I am blessed beyond words that I have had the chance to be a stay at home mom while finishing my nursing degree.
Monday, May 17, 2010
Sunday, May 16, 2010
Our Story
Welcome to my blog! I will start off by sharing our story. My name is Tabitha, I am happily married to Joe and we have three children. Our first, Nathan joined the angels at 18 weeks gestation on September 11, 2006. This was a journey that I would never wish on my worst enemy . The pregnancy started off horribly since I began having problems with bleeding very early on. During one of the many ultrasounds I had, my obstetrician diagnosed the bleeding as a subchorionic hematoma (blood clot),which in most cases resolves on its own. Unfortunately, in our situation the blood clot continued to grow. In the end it caused the placenta to detach from my uterus, causing Nathan to lose all oxygen and nutrition he was receiving from the placenta. My life is forever changed. Not a day goes by that I do not think about the son that I never got to know.
After losing Nathan we decided trying to conceive again and became pregnant fairly quickly and took another blow when losing the pregnancy to a miscarriage. We tried again. Miscarriage again. We tried again. Veda was born January 8, 2008. Perfect. Beautiful. 6lbs 13oz, 19 1/4 in. What a blessing she is. The pregnancy went along without a flaw. This of course doesn't mean that I wasn't completely neurotic about every little twinge! I constantly was at the office making sure that she was okay. Until I held her in my arms, the whole thing was surreal.
When Veda was just over a year old we decided trying to conceive a sibling for her. Low and behold, we were pregnant a few short months later. The beginning was a bit scary and we believed we were experiencing another failed pregnancy. I went in for an early ultrasound and they found nothing but an empty space were the baby should have been growing. The obstetrician asked me to come back in a week to see if there was any growth. I went back. We progressed. The rest of the pregnancy went off without a hitch! I didn't have the constant fear that I was going to lose my baby and the best part was that I actually enjoyed my pregnancy! Grayson made his debut on February 3, 2010. Perfect. Big. Gorgeous. 9lbs 1oz, 20 1/2in.
Our kids are our lives and we live each day for them. We have had many trials and tribulations but its all worth it. Right now I am focusing on being the best mommy, wife, and future nurse that I can be.
After losing Nathan we decided trying to conceive again and became pregnant fairly quickly and took another blow when losing the pregnancy to a miscarriage. We tried again. Miscarriage again. We tried again. Veda was born January 8, 2008. Perfect. Beautiful. 6lbs 13oz, 19 1/4 in. What a blessing she is. The pregnancy went along without a flaw. This of course doesn't mean that I wasn't completely neurotic about every little twinge! I constantly was at the office making sure that she was okay. Until I held her in my arms, the whole thing was surreal.
When Veda was just over a year old we decided trying to conceive a sibling for her. Low and behold, we were pregnant a few short months later. The beginning was a bit scary and we believed we were experiencing another failed pregnancy. I went in for an early ultrasound and they found nothing but an empty space were the baby should have been growing. The obstetrician asked me to come back in a week to see if there was any growth. I went back. We progressed. The rest of the pregnancy went off without a hitch! I didn't have the constant fear that I was going to lose my baby and the best part was that I actually enjoyed my pregnancy! Grayson made his debut on February 3, 2010. Perfect. Big. Gorgeous. 9lbs 1oz, 20 1/2in.
Our kids are our lives and we live each day for them. We have had many trials and tribulations but its all worth it. Right now I am focusing on being the best mommy, wife, and future nurse that I can be.
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